Divorce is a challenging experience for a family, with children being particularly vulnerable to the emotional impact of the separation. Nonetheless, there are various ways parents can help minimize the emotional effect of divorce on their children.
If you are facing, considering or ready to proceed with divorce, you can consider the following approaches to help your child cope:
Using a coparenting agreement as a tool
If suitable to your situation, you and your coparent can work towards creating a coparenting arrangement allowing each of you to be as involved as much as possible in your child’s life after the divorce. In the arrangement, incorporating consistent rules and discipline across both households can provide the child a sense of security and normalcy.
Moreover, parents cooperating and maintaining a civil relationship can significantly help the child cope during the process.
Allowing your child to voice out their thoughts
As much as possible, encourage your child to express their feelings about the divorce. Moreover, validate their emotions and reassure them that it is okay to feel sad or confused. You should also avoid making the other parent appear bad.
You can also consider your child’s opinion and preference on custody and visitation arrangements, especially if they align with your child’s best interests.
Achieving your goal with trusted guidance
Divorce can be emotional for you too and you may not always be in the best state to make decisions affecting your child, such as creating the terms of a coparenting agreement. In this case, you may want to consider seeking guidance from a divorce attorney to help you make informed decisions and assist you in creating a comprehensive parenting plan to protect your child’s future.
Every child is unique and what works for one may not work for another. Hence, you and your coparent should be attentive to your child’s needs throughout the divorce process so you can help them cope emotionally and mentally.